It may be useful to ask yourself if your cat’s parents behaved like this and what kind of experience did they have (eg was it a stray before your adoption?). Even age is influential especially if it is an older cat.
Some cats, therefore, are not particularly affectionate, but they do not, for this reason, do not love.
Remember: the cat is a soloist and not a pack animal like the dog! Therefore what for you is indifference, for your cat is to live freely in its own way even if within the walls of the house.
In the case in which, instead, it was not just personality, but it goes further and:
- whenever you get close, the cat blows you, scratches or even spits ( aggressive behavior );
- in your presence he always goes away or prefers to stay hidden ( isolation);
- gets scared every time you get close or move ( fear );
- only parts of the body are nervously licked, creating alopecias or even bloody sores ( self-mutilation );
- breaks everything at home ( destructive exploration );
- needs everywhere ( inappropriate elimination ).
If a health problem has already been ruled out by the trusted veterinarian, it is advisable to contact an accredited behavioral expert who makes a home visit and knows how to direct you towards the correct resolution of the problem and recover a peaceful coexistence with your cat.
In the points mentioned above, it is possible to hide real behavioral pathologies such as depression, hyperactivity, and stress of various kinds, but there may also be simple and trivial misunderstandings and/or wrong approaches between a cat and human beings.
If the cat has been adopted recently, it is normal that it can be frightened and/or that it is not immediately inclined to have direct contact with the new owner, but only needs time.
If, on the other hand, it has changed for the worse over time, it could be blamed for the fact that something particularly traumatic has happened, for example a grief, a separation, a divorce, a move , the owner’s absence for a long journey, the birth of a child , an unbalanced diet, the adoption of another animal not liked, but also a stressful period for the owner, for sentimental, working and / or economic reasons, is perceived and experienced by the cat who no longer knows how to approach and give up isolating himself or even attacking, especially if he has suffered violent reactions at home.
How to show affection to the cat
How do you show affection to your kitty? Be yourself! Like any animal, he appreciates the lightness of the game, a downbeat attitude, and cuddles, so there are plenty of easy to implement tools!
However, the beauty of sharing life with your pet is that they accept us just as we are!
You can help improve the quality of life in the home through environmental enrichments. Just add shelves, boxes, scratches and climbers of various heights. Also, provide balanced food to leave available in more areas of the house with as many freshwater sources. Try to invite him to the game with bites, balls or lights.
It takes great care to clean both the bowls, but above all the beddings that should possibly be two (one for the urine and one for the feces). On the bunks or places where he likes to sleep, leave him some of your clothes.
To encourage contact, sit on the floor at his or her height and move slowly, let them smell and touch it with the back of the hand which is less invasive than the palm.
You can also help yourself with the use of pheromones to put both in the environment in which you live and to spray yourself.
Love is conquered over time, so give it without claiming and time will give you back what you are looking for, naturally.